How To Better Communicate

Have you ever found yourself feeling increasingly more frustrated while talking with someone as if you’re speaking two different languages? There are many parts to communicating clearly, but two essential ones I’d like to focus on here. Listening and expressing.

It is important to show someone you’re really listening to what they have to say. It can help to use “active listening” techniques. After the other person makes a statement, repeat or paraphrase what you’ve heard. This not only helps you to truly hear them, it makes the other person feel that you’re trying (and effectively do) understand them. Even if it’s a heated argument, you’ll probably find that the other party is relieved to see that you’ve listened.

The other side of communication - expressing yourself clearly - should start from a place of calmness; you’re more likely to choose words that are clear, strong and inoffensive from this place. Avoid name-calling and judgmental statements like (”that’s ridiculous!”) These only hurt and incense people further. So take a few breaths before speaking. This will clear your mind. Then instead of pointing fingers, tell them your point of view. Chances are that if you’ve already actively listened to them, they’ll instinctively learn how to do the same with you.

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