June 28th, 2010 by Susan
We all have a friend, relative or colleague that we may like very much, but who has that one quirk we just can’t stand. Maybe your father is a horrible communicator. Maybe your old high school friend is into celebrity gossip. Maybe your colleague has a habit of always asking what you have for lunch. You may feel absolutely compelled to try to change that person because you believe you have the power to do so.
But the fact is, you can’t change them. And the more you let go of the desire to do so, the happier you’ll be. It’s liberating to recognize what is in our control and what isn’t. The more you hit your head against a brick wall, the more it’s going to hurt. So really meditate on the fact that you cannot change these quirks in the people you love. They are still the people you love, so accept them for all that they are. After all, even though we think we are very easy to get along with, they accept us, don’t they?
If you need a little help accepting those around you for who they are, give us a call. We’re always here for you.
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May 25th, 2010 by Susan
It may happen at least once in your life. Someone you trust will lie to you. It can happen between co-workers, friends and even family. This can be a devastating blow and make it difficult to trust others. But how you deal with this breach of trust can really help you move on to more trustworthy relationships.
If you really just need to tell this person how you feel and don’t expect an apology, then you may want to write a letter. Writing a letter allows you to say what you feel without being interrupted. Don’t be mean, just tell them how you’ve been hurt by their actions. This can be a very powerful way of getting beyond the incident.
If you’re looking for resolution, then speak with the person face-to-face. Tell them how you feel and be ready to hear their side of the story. You might be surprised by the other person’s remorse for having treated you poorly. On the other hand, they may not want a resolution, in which case, you must be satisfied with saying your piece and moving on.
If you’ve been lied to and don’t know how to handle your feelings about it, our Master Psychics can help you cope with your complex feelings.
Love and Blessings, Susan Page
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February 9th, 2010 by Susan
Losses of every kind occur throughout our lives. We can lose a job or a house. We can lose a loved one to illness or through the end of a relationship. The emotions that come when you’re coping with a loss can be some of the most difficult and uncomfortable ones to go through. But dealing with a loss can also be one of the most growth-inducing experiences we can have and may even help us connect with other people more intensely.
The first step to coping with a loss starts with allowing yourself to feel the emotions. They’re usually not pleasant, and most of us will try to avoid those feelings of sadness, anger, frustration and resentment. But, it’s better to feel them and let them pass through you so that you can move past them, rather than letting them fester for days or weeks or years. Cry, scream, or punch a pillow. It’s important to express these feelings.
The other important step is to talk. Talk to your friends, your support system, a therapist, or a Master Psychic. You need to process your thoughts and emotions and speaking with someone (or several people) you can trust will make all the difference. You will feel loved, supported and not at all alone, even if you’ve lost someone close to you. You’ll probably find that some of the people you talk to have had similar experiences. As you express yourself and talk to trustworthy people, your days will get easier and your other relationships may even grow closer.
If you need answers give one of our Master Psychics a call. We’re always here for you and we love hearing from you.
Love and Blessings, Susan Page
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January 26th, 2010 by Susan
You’re self-sufficient and have been for years. You’ve got a solid job, know how to cook, have great friendships and your checkbook is balanced. But maybe you’ve found yourself in a bind - emotional, financial, spiritual or even within a relationship. Maybe what’s usually been very easy to handle in the past is suddenly difficult. Your nature may be to forge ahead on your own, finding your own solutions. But sometimes we need a little help. It’s important to know that asking for help is okay.
If you’re used to taking care of everything yourself, it can be hard to admit that you need some guidance and comfort. But there is strength in recognizing when you need help and asking for it. Understanding your own limitations means you understand that you are human, not super-human. Trying to fix something you are confused about or don’t understand can be very hard, which is why it is important to ask for help. Getting that help can lead you to new growth.
Of course, getting the proper help can make all the difference in getting a great outcome. Would you hire a pastry chef to fix your car? Would you ask a 15 year old to invest your money for you? Probably not. Take a look at your most recent challenge and think about who would be of the most assistance to you. An accountant? Your brother? A therapist? Whomever it is, remember that asking for their help shows just how strong you really are.
If you’re encountering a challenge in your life and need some help, give our Master Psychics a call.
Love and Blessings,
Susan Page
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December 16th, 2009 by Susan
If you’ve recently had some sort of change in your daily life - you’ve moved, changed jobs, or started a new class - it can feel challenging to meet new people and cultivate new friendships. Many times this feeling is based in a fear that people won’t like us. Plus, when you’re in a new situation, it’s doubly difficult to feel comfortable. The key is to move through the uncomfortable feelings and be comfortable being you.
So first, you need to acknowledge that you’re feeling a little ill at ease in your new situation and that’s okay. Then take note that you’ve certainly made friends before - even long-lasting ones - so you can do it again. Once you’ve relaxed a bit, you can start conversations with the new folks in your life. Ask questions about the other person without being invasive. Where are they from? What do they do for a living? Where did they go to school? What are their hobbies? When they answer, truly listen; don’t just nod your head. People appreciate it when they feel someone is really listening to them. You’ll know if they’re doing the same for you. Soon enough, as you relax and listen and respond, you’ll find yourself more at ease and making some new friends!
If you’re having difficulty making friends and need some guidance, please give us a call and we’ll be happy to help.
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August 29th, 2009 by Susan
Have you ever found yourself feeling increasingly more frustrated while talking with someone as if you’re speaking two different languages? There are many parts to communicating clearly, but two essential ones I’d like to focus on here. Listening and expressing.
It is important to show someone you’re really listening to what they have to say. It can help to use “active listening” techniques. After the other person makes a statement, repeat or paraphrase what you’ve heard. This not only helps you to truly hear them, it makes the other person feel that you’re trying (and effectively do) understand them. Even if it’s a heated argument, you’ll probably find that the other party is relieved to see that you’ve listened.
The other side of communication - expressing yourself clearly - should start from a place of calmness; you’re more likely to choose words that are clear, strong and inoffensive from this place. Avoid name-calling and judgmental statements like (”that’s ridiculous!”) These only hurt and incense people further. So take a few breaths before speaking. This will clear your mind. Then instead of pointing fingers, tell them your point of view. Chances are that if you’ve already actively listened to them, they’ll instinctively learn how to do the same with you.
If you’re having trouble communicating with someone in your life and could use some guidance, please give us a call. We’re always here for you.
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