Have you ever found yourself feeling increasingly more frustrated while talking with someone as if you’re speaking two different languages? There are many parts to communicating clearly, but two essential ones I’d like to focus on here. Listening and expressing.

It is important to show someone you’re really listening to what they have to say. It can help to use “active listening” techniques. After the other person makes a statement, repeat or paraphrase what you’ve heard. This not only helps you to truly hear them, it makes the other person feel that you’re trying (and effectively do) understand them. Even if it’s a heated argument, you’ll probably find that the other party is relieved to see that you’ve listened.

The other side of communication - expressing yourself clearly - should start from a place of calmness; you’re more likely to choose words that are clear, strong and inoffensive from this place. Avoid name-calling and judgmental statements like (”that’s ridiculous!”) These only hurt and incense people further. So take a few breaths before speaking. This will clear your mind. Then instead of pointing fingers, tell them your point of view. Chances are that if you’ve already actively listened to them, they’ll instinctively learn how to do the same with you.

If you’re having trouble communicating with someone in your life and could use some guidance, please give us a call. We’re always here for you.

We think of our friends as being the people we can absolutely trust.  They are people we share our deepest fears and hopes with, who seem to just know us without needing an explanation into our personalities.  Whether we’ve known them for years or just weeks, friends are an incredibly important part of our healthy spiritual lives.
 
But sometimes, due to miscommunication, extreme circumstances or simply time-gone-by, friendships can suffer.  This experience can feel debilitating, just like breaking up with a boyfriend or girlfriend, because it feels like a betrayal.  When friendships hit a speed bump, it’s important to take a step back and really look at what happened.  Try to see the other person’s perspective.  Put in the work to honestly communicate with each other without being mean.  Remember, you’re probably both hurt and this friendship is probably salvageable.  In fact, you might even grow closer if you can mend your differences. 

If you’ve recently had a misunderstanding with a close friend and need some answers about the situation and how to come to common ground, our Master Psychics can help you see the situation and the solutions more clearly.  Feel free to call us.  We’re here to help and we always love hearing from you!
 

Love and Blessings,

Susan Page